Questions for any trans*/nonbinary humans
As the only (to the best of my knowledge) trans* fitness instructor for my gym (at least in the region), I spend a lot of time thinking about how my experiences could help to make gyms to be safer and more accessible to trans* and/or non conforming, and/or non binary individuals who still want to get fit, have fun, and get the full experience. I want to bring this information to my (hell supportive) boss to see if we can’t start making some positive changes so everyBODY is welcome and feels SAFE.
So I wanna know
- do you have a gym membership? why/why not?
- What do you enjoy most about your gym experience?
- Do you take group exercise classes? why or why not?
- Do you ever get feelings of gender dysphoria while working out? (please elaborate if you can)
- Do you feel comfortable using gendered change rooms & showers?
- If gender neutral/single use washroom and shower facilities were available, would that make you feel more comfortable in a gym environment?
- would you use said facilities if they were available?
- would trans/NB/gender neutral accommodations make you more inclined to become a member?
- any other information you feel would be relevant
PLEASE if any of this pertains to you, answer these questions and hit me up I DON’T CARE if you aren’t Canadian your opinions and feelings are still valid GO GO GO GO
and thank you :) have a lovely day.
1. I used to when I attended University. I do not now
2. I like being able to use the pool and the various equipment that one cannot afford on their own.
4. Yes. The gym I find to be a place that is heavily gendered (men by the weights, women on the treds) and it makes me super uncomfortable.
5. No. This is especially why I stopped going to my last gym was I mainly like to use the pool and the only way into the pool was through the locker rooms. So I stopped.
6. Not really. I would probably only feel comfortable when their is one gender neutral room and no others. But not if just one was added on top of men and women.
7. Dependent on #6
8. It would make me more inclined, but at this point the gym kind of scares the shit out of me to be honest.
9. The gym scares me so much. Not just as a trans person, but as a person existing in a gendered world the gym is the place where I have had some of my worst and most nerve wracking experiences.
if you accidentally misgender someone, or say the wrong name, just correct yourself in the same manner as if you called a cis person by the wrong name or pronouns, which is not unknown because we are all capable of verbal slips.
sometimes i accidentally call people my dog’s name, or i call them “mom”
the right way to do this is “[wrong name], excuse me, [correct name]” or “[wrong pronoun], I’m sorry [correct pronoun]”
if you accidentally mess up someone’s pronouns, do not call attention to it by falling over yourself to apologize.
conversely, do not just move on and hope they didn’t notice. they definitely noticed. not correcting yourself is offensive, and pretending that you didn’t mess up is a form of gaslighting.
if you feel like going the extra mile, apologize the next time you’re alone with them, without excuses. say “I’m sorry that I misgendered you” or “I’m sorry called you the wrong name.”
do not say “it’s so hard, and i keep forgetting! I’m so bad!” trans people hear this over and over, and the message is that they should apologize for being who they are.
if someone close to you has changed their name and/or pronouns, and you’re having a difficult time with it, maybe you should practice at home.
my mom needs to read this.
You shouldn’t feel ashamed of your identity. But remember, there is nothing wrong with staying in the closet until you feel safe enough to come out.
Do whatever makes you feel better.
You’re not an attention-seeker if you come out.
You’re not a coward if you stay in the closet.
Take care of yourself, friend.
so let me get this straight
kids and teenagers are often restricted from hormone-blockers on the basis that they are too young to make such a big decision and yet babies with ambiguous genitalia are forced into “corrective” surgery and hormones, often done in a way to promote heterosexual forms of sex
i see you binarism. you and your bullshit